‘Trust Yourself’ is a phrase we like to use, both in encouraging other people and in encouraging ourselves. It seems so simple but it really isn’t, is it? I can’t count how many times in the last year or so I’ve looked myself in the eye and said it right out loud so I could hear myself. “Come on, Moxie… Trust Yourself.” Where does that Trust come from? It’s hard to Trust Yourself if you don’t first LOVE yourself.
I do pretty well with loving who I am, but it can be hard work sometimes. It has helped that I don’t have a TV, and I never, EVER read those poisonous womens’ magazines. You know the ones….. they tell us how we should look, what we should buy, and who we want to be like. The central message is this: “You need to change everything about yourself. Nothing about you is good enough.”
Take a very close look at the women on the covers. Not only do the magazines feature women of only ONE body type, those shots are heavily altered. There are websites out there devoted to spotting altered photos and exposing them for the fakes they are. Now that I’m hip to it, those cover models look like aliens with their over-sized heads and digitally sculpted waistlines. I was in the grocery checkout line recently, eyeing a magazine cover featuring a photo story about “Hollywood Stars’ Bad Beach Bodies”. After I finished snickering at the digitally added fat rolls and fake stretch marks, I got angry at the message being broadcast there.
How dare these women be comfortable in their own skin? How dare we eat when we are hungry? You should conquer that hunger because it is wrong! How dare we mothers allow our stretch-marks to show in public? How dare Demi Moore go to the store without makeup? She can’t do that!
Guess what? She can. And so can you.
You all like to post photos of yourselves on FaceBook, so I know what I’m talking about when I say: You Are Beautiful. You were beautiful when you woke up this morning. You are beautiful without your makeup. I know that I am! Don’t get me wrong – If you like to wear makeup, DO IT! You should do whatever you like to do, whatever makes YOU happy and forget what the magazines and commercials tell you. Listen to what your own heart tells you. It will tell you what I have told you: You are Beautiful, and there is so much to love about YOU.
I’d like to thank the very wise and beautiful Temper for turning me on to this particular video from Laci Green. Laci hit the nail on the head when she talks about feeling as if “I’ve got the wrong boobs!”
At first, I had a difficult time believing that a woman SO gorgeous and perfect (hah!) ever struggled to love herself, but she has been subjected to the same marketing and societal pressures as the rest of us. We are not so different after all.
Laci Green is not the only lady to inspire me to work harder to love myself. I’d like you to also meet Rachele. Some day, I want to be like her: Confident. Fierce. Unapologetic. Beautiful.